New habits are challenging to incorporate into our lives. We usually set our goals so high that they quickly begin to feel overwhelming and inevitably impossible to reach. We feel so far away from who we are trying to be that we give up before we can really get started.
I am by no means telling you to dream small. You truly can be everything you want to be in this life. However, on your journey it is important to remember that nothing happens over night, patience is a very important part of this process.
In this space we focus on cultivating self love. If you are someone who has negative thoughts, anxious feelings, sadness, low energy and trouble keeping promises to yourself, your not alone. It would be hard to say you will wake up tomorrow and be positive Polly all day while not allow a single negative thought into your head, simply because you are ready to make a change. Chances are that expectation would not last very long, you would wind up becoming frustrated with yourself and your positive mood turns negative quite quickly and possibly feels more intense then usual. Now, you are beating yourself up for not being able to show up as positive Polly for even a few forking hours, and the self loathing and negativity is at an all time high.
This is why I say start small. A new mindset takes time. The tools are often hidden behind high ticket coaching calls or impossible therapy bills that leave us feeling defeated and lost.
I am going to give you your first small step in the direction of change.
A daily gratitude list.
I know, I know the eye roll is real right now. But hear me out. This is one small positive change in the right direction. This journal has 365 boxes, one for every day of the year, with five lines in each box. You are not expected to fill the page with endless things you are grateful for just Five. Simple. Words.
That is it. It is a promise that will take some work, but it is a promise that is completely in reach. As as you continue this process you will become someone who keeps promises to themselves. Even on the difficult days you can be grateful that you woke up, you have water to drink, and air in your lungs. On the hard days remember to go back to the basics, but never to give up. Always no matter what, make your list. If you do not get to it first thing in the morning that is ok. Be sure, before you close your eyes at night, you make your list.
Accountability is important, so join our self love accountability and support group here. We take photos of our list and share it with likeminded people who are also on the path toward self love. It is fun to get to read what everyone else is grateful for, and it adds to your already positive thoughts after you wrote your own list. Or maybe you use the group to give you inspiration for your own list on the days that feel like a struggle. Most importantly it is a reminder to stick to your own self love routine, to keep this promise to yourself.
Community connection is a powerful tool that is often overlooked. Small steps toward a bigger goal often get left behind because they do not feel important enough. Let's pick up these two vital lifelines and begin walking the powerful path toward loving ourselves a little deeper every day.